Tarrey Torae is a singer, songwriter, and a six-time “Showtime at the Apollo” winner known for her work on Grammy-winning albums with John Legend and Ye West, and Grammy-nominated albums with J. Ivy.

When the side piece starts catching feelings, the story usually shifts from secret excitement to emotional chaos. What once felt like a fun escape from responsibility begins to blur into something ...

Q: I’m a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I’ve read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and I always thought I’d be fine with having a partner ask me about being monogamish.

While some people think they are perpetually cool, calm, and collected, they're not. At least, not all the time. Across the board, human beings are a roller coaster of emotions, feelings, and moods.